Sex and middle age
Newspapers love a story about middle-aged sex.
Sometimes it’s a negative survey that shows how little sex middle aged couples manage to have – in other words Earth Fails To Move Much For Weary Over-45s.
Sometimes it is a good feeling story about happy older couples- like this report of a survey by Rosie Boycott.
Fulfilling Relationships -The Truth About Middle Age Sex.
Do not lose hope. It is straightforward for men who begin to flag to retain sexual function with appropriate treatment.
For a woman – well many women will also maintain interest in later life.
A survey of forty something women gave these results –
70% said their sex lives were better than ever before;
82% said sex was as important as it was in their twenties;
45% wanted more sex than ever before;
69% felt more adventurous in bed;
66% felt more confident about their bodies.
The good news is that if women in their late 50’s or 60’s take HRT they will report similar feelings.
In fact the good news is that whatever your orientation there is no age limit to happy fulfilling sexual relationships.
Rosie Boycott
The Daily Mail
The truth about sex is very simple
There are 2 things you need if you want to continue having sex over 50.The first is pretty obvious. You need someone who wants to have sex, too – and who wants to do it with you.
The second is that both partners have to able to become physically aroused, couple successfully and, ideally, climax.
What is the problem for you?
There are 3 types of problem that might affect either you or your partner and prevent satisfactory sex. One is enough to make life difficult – sometimes there are multiple factors.
No desire – you no longer want to have sex?
Loss of desire can be due to ill health, a consequence of low testosterone output, be related to depression or be the result of a difficult relationship.
A doctor should be able help you identify the cause and the appropriate solution.
If the problem is your relationship
This may be best tackled as a couple – you agree that there is a problem and that you will seek a solution such as couples counselling. However, even if one partner makes a positive move to change things for the better this may be all that is needed to tip the balance in a happier direction and mend the rift.
Physical difficulties
There are your own problems and then those that affect your partner may also need help.
In men the physical difficulties usually relate to erection. There is absent or poorly sustained erection. The solution is to ensure there is adequate testosterone and then consider a Viagra-like drug. Occasionally, men may find that sensation is diminished and progress to orgasm is intolerably slow. Case reports suggest that increasing the dose of both T and the PDE5i drug [Viagra, Cialis or Levitra] solves this issue.
In women the physical difficulties are more complex but usually relate to oestrogen lack and are solved with hormones and / or lubricants – see Sex Help
